Mike’s story: A john talks about what it’s like from his perspective.
This piece is verbatim with permission from a larger interview.
“I worked in South America in the eighties when I was in my twenties. Some older guys took me to a club where all the girls were working. That first night I was offended by the whole situation. After a few months I softened up and took my first girl home on my 25th birthday.
I paid for girls a few times after that including one amazing night in Amsterdam, but met my wife and except for a lap dance here and there did nothing for 25 years.
Due to family, and a few health problems, sex life in my marriage completely dried up. I figured if I ended up traveling for work I would likely try to get into an affair.
I moved to St. John’s a few years ago and tried to meet people. I found a few things:
- 1. Women my age in St. John’s had been burned by an unfaithful husband and had no interest in a married man.
- 2. Younger girls did not care, were more attractive, but really weren’t interested.
- 3. Strippers do not judge and were very nice to whoever was spending money.
I was actually surprised, given my position, the places I visited, and all the news that there were many working girls in St. John’s, that after half a year I did not get propositioned once. Finally a girl I ran into on the street propositioned me and I brought her to my apartment.
After that I found myself in the strip clubs more often and met a girl from the mainland who eventually changed things. She did something new to me – she exchanged cell numbers with me. Then she would text me when the club was slow or she was bored. She returned to her home and a few months later my assignment ended.
This is really where my life changed. I got hold of her and we started seeing each other regularly for almost two years … While there is sex and money, you can see that a lot of it is also about relationships, perhaps completely screwed up, but still real.”