“I wonder if you see yourself in the posts your female friends may have made or in the stories about men coming out about the harm they’ve done or women coming forward with allegations against men of status – that just maybe what you’ve done in the past isn’t too different from the atrocities we keep hearing about. Your community could hold you accountable and acknowledge the harm you’ve done or even give you resources to rehabilitate yourself. But, let’s be realistic they’ve been cushioning you from your actions for years and enabling the harm you’ve perpetuated against women. You are where their politics and values suddenly become inconvenient as they need you to be the person you pretend to be. Someday, I hope it all catches up to you and won’t be able to charm yourself out of it.” – Let her be